PARTNER OR SPOUSE'S CO-ADDICTION SCREENINGTEST Adapted from S-ANON
The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signs of sex and love
addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these
questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying
patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions.
1.
Have you often felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by someone else's sexual conduct?
Yes
No
2.
Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear that he or she will leave you?
Yes
No
3.
Have you sometimes found yourself searching for clues about someone else's sexual behavior?
Yes
No
4.
Have you ever fantasized, obsessed or worried about someone else's sexual problems?
Yes
No
5.
Have you ever made threats to others or promises to yourself ("If this happens again, I'll leave.") that you did not carry out?
Yes
No
6.
Have you ever tried to control somebody else's sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?
Yes
No
7.
Has your involvement with another person or their sexual behavior ever affected your relationship with your children, your co-workers or other friends or family members?
Yes
No
8.
Have you often lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person's sexual conduct?
Yes
No
9.
Have you had money problems because of someone else's sexual behavior?
Yes
No
10.
Have you engaged in sexual behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, or is physically dangerous, fearing that if you don't the sexaholic will leave you?
Yes
No
11.
Have you ever felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not true when talking with the sexaholic?
Yes
No
12.
Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone else's sexual behavior?
Yes
No
13.
Have you often used sex to keep peace in the family or smooth over problems?
Yes
No
14.
Does sex (for example, thinking about it, doing it, talking about it, worrying about it) play an all-consuming role in the relationship?
Yes
No
15.
Have you ever felt abandoned emotionally because of your partner's use of pornography or masturbation?
Yes
No
16.
Have you ever helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or feared that this kind of thing could happen?
Yes
No
17.
Have you often thought that the sexaholic's behavior was caused by other people, such as friends or sexual partners? by society in general? by his/her job, religion, or birth family?
Yes
No
18.
Have you ever suspected that anyone was inappropriately sexually interested in any of your children?
Yes
No
19.
Do you feel alone in your problem?
Yes
No
20.
Do you feel that your partner/spouse's sexual behavior(s) will continue no matter what you say or feel?
Yes
No
TotalYes Answers:
If you answered Yes to 0-3 Q’s – you’re probably not sexually addicted
If you answered Yes to 4-6 Q’s – you may have a problem
If you answered Yes to 7 or more questions, we suggest you seek help for sex addiction.
The clinical staff at The Institute for Essential Change is available by phone at 954.463.6563 or email info@essentialchange.org
